In a heartfelt episode of the ”Call Her Daddy” podcast, Rachael Kirkconnell opened up about the unexpected breakup with Matt James, revealing details that took many fans by surprise. The couple, who gained fame through their romance on ”The Bachelor,” ended their relationship earlier this month. What followed was an emotional journey for Kirkconnell as she discussed her feelings and the reasons that led to this separation.
Unexpected Split After Japan Trip
The news of their breakup came shortly after the couple returned from a trip to Japan, where they reportedly had been discussing their future together. Kirkconnell explained that just days before the split, they were contemplating marriage, making the breakup even more shocking for her. She described feeling completely blindsided when Matt announced their breakup via Instagram, a move that caught her off guard and caused her considerable distress.
Incompatibility and Concerns About Marriage
Kirkconnell shared that one of the main reasons for their split was Matt’s uncertainty about marriage. Despite their talks about engagement and a shared future, James was not ready to take that step. He expressed concerns about being compatible, and that made Rachael feel worried and anxious. Kirkconnell explained, “I felt like I was the one who was constantly apologizing in our relationship,” which highlighted a power imbalance that she felt throughout their time together.
A Public Announcement that Surprised Everyone
The announcement of their breakup came as the couple was still sharing moments together on social media, making fans puzzled and concerned. Kirkconnell noted that she learned about the breakup through a friend while on a flight, leaving her feeling anxious about how things had unfolded. She mentioned that Matt’s way of handling the split felt disrespectful, particularly since he made it public without talking to her first.
Living Arrangements and Relationship Dynamics
Interestingly, despite their four-year relationship, Matt and Rachael never officially lived together. They often stayed at each other’s places but never cohabitated. Rachael saw this as a red flag, saying it raised questions about their commitment to one another. She explained that Matt’s religious beliefs played a role in their living situation, as he was hesitant to live together before marriage.
Looking Back on Their Relationship
Kirkconnell’s reflections further revealed that although she and Matt shared numerous adventures, including traveling and spending time with family, she often felt an insecurity rooted in their relationship dynamics. She expressed that she had given her all during their time together and felt that receiving the same energy from Matt was often challenging. “It felt like pulling teeth,” she admitted. Yet, she insists that there was no infidelity involved, debunking rumors that circulated after the breakup.
End of an Era
Reflecting on this chapter of her life, Rachael described her feelings as a mix of heartbreak and a realization of what red flags existed. While she still values the moments they shared and looks back fondly on their beginnings, she recognizes that their different outlooks on commitment and marriage ultimately led them down separate paths. As she continues to heal from the breakup, Rachael expressed that she would appreciate some respect for the relationship they built, while also hoping for personal growth in the future.